Suite 101: Loss of Libido
I showed it to my partner and he raised his eyebrows and said: ‘I think yours is higher than mine most of the time.’
It is distressing when your libido is much higher than your partner’s or vice versa. When I’m tired and stressed, sex is often the last thing on my mind. With full-time work and a three-year old we both have to make an effort to focus on the physical side of our relationship, and sometimes sex does feel functional and routine. It’s natural to go through peaks and troughs and important to acknowledge that and talk (and laugh) about it. How many times you have (or haven’t) had sex this month can become an unconscious pressure.
I haven’t made any new year’s resolutions but I’ve decided to make this a year of experimentation. I’m going to focus on my libido, road test various books/products/therapies and post the findings here. I started doing this a while ago by following The Orgasmic Diet by Marrena Lindberg, but I ran out of fish oils so need to start again. It did work although I didn’t focus enough on pelvic exercises, which are crucial for good sex. It’s an enlightening read and I recommend it.
The libido article consistently has high page views so I know it’s a concern for many people. I’d love to hear your comments and experiences about loss of libido, as well as any recommendations about what has worked for you.
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